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Believe in yourself

They conquer who believe they can.
--John Dryden

Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.
--Vince Lombardi

Confidence is a critical ingredient in being successful, happy, and relaxed. It is easily gained by surrounding yourself with confident people, and at no cost to them. It is also easily lost by surrounding yourself with those who lack confidence, at great cost to yourself. Be aware of who you interact with, socialize with, and surround yourself with. Be aware of what you read, watch, and listen to. If you put good messages into your mind in this way, you will have right thoughts and then the right results. Believe in yourself and the world has no choice but to follow.

Be Excellent

Whatever your life's work is, do it well. A man should do his job so well that the living, the dead, and the unborn could do it no better.
--Martin Luther King, Jr.

If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.
--Colin Powell

Being excellent is liberating and empowering. We are all designed and destined for excellence through all aspects of our lives. Being excellent builds on itself. Starting in the morning, be excellent at preparing for your day. Be excellent at your commute. Be excellent at how you buy your morning coffee. Be in the habit of being consciously aware of how you are performing each task. If you are in the habit of going through the motions in how you conduct the smaller mundane things, it has a way of creeping into the bigger aspects of your life. Relish every moment, and be excellent at every task.

Be Courageous

Life is a battle in which we fall from wounds we receive in running away
--William L. Sullivan

Courage is the most important of all virtues, because without it we can't practice any of the other virtues consistently
--Maya Angelou

Picture a deer caught in the headlights of an oncoming car. What will kill the deer is not the car, but the fear that keeps him trapped, paralyzed to act, afraid to move. We too can be like that in our daily lives, in business and in personal relationships. Fears will come, that is natural. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to act in the face of it. If you want success in any area of your life, you must practice acting in the face of your fears.

Be Positive

No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new heaven to the human spirit
--Helen Keller

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
--Mark Twain

Surround yourself with positive influences, and avoid the negative. Your mind is to precious to allow other's negativity to invade it. Seek out opportunities to find positive people, and people who support your ambitions. Drop out of the "ain't it awful club", as Jack Canfield calls it. Spend some time each day reading or listening to inspirational material, this will help counteract the negativity you inevitably run into daily. Also look for opportunities to socialize and work with positive people. Success and failure are both contagious, make sure you catch the right one by surrounding yourself with the right people.

Persistence

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results
Albert Einstein

It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer
Albert Einstein

Persistence is a key tool, perhaps the most significant tool, in achieving success and reaching your goals. But as with any tool, it must be used or applied properly for you to experience the benefits of having it in your bag. Persisting in the "how" of getting there can leave you trapped in the same spot, repeating the same actions over and over, while wondering why you are not making progress and meeting Einstein's definition of insanity. On the other hand, persistence in getting to the goal or destination while being open to trying new possibilities, listening to others, and allowing the universe to partner with you in that journey is exceedingly powerful in helping you achieve all you want. Persistence is a powerful tool, use it well.

Keep Dreaming

"No" is a word on your path to "yes." Don't give up too soon. Not even if well-meaning parents, relatives, friends, and colleagues tell you to get "a real job." Your dreams are your real job.
-- Joyce Spizer

Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop the picture...Do not build up obstacles in your imagination.
-- Norman Vincent Peale

"Your dreams are your real job", that sends a chill up my spine. How often are dreams and dreaming treated as a negative, and yet that is our real purpose. We are here in this world for a reason, and it is not to get safely through to death. Dreams are a pointer to your purpose, and your purpose is your real job. Well meaning people may try to talk you down from your dreams, but don't let them. They are like a parent watching their child climb a tree, learn to ride a bike, or drive a car. Or like a friend watching you fall in love. They may see risks and fear for you, but if they could see your dreams they would never question you. Only you can see your dreams fully, and so when well meaning people try to help talk you down from your dreams, thank them for their concern but don't ever turn back.

Enjoy What You Already Have

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you
now have was once among the things you only hoped for.

-- Epicurus

If we want to achieve our goals, while at the same time being happy and successful we need to have what Jack Canfield calls high intention with low attachment. Set the goals, set the target, and then let go of your attachment to it. Staying too attached to the outcome, or "spoiling what you have by desiring what you have not" is a lot like an impatient child's constant refrain of "are we there yet" on a long trip. It can spoil the trip, and after all it really is about the trip and not the destination.

Explore

I teach something called The Law of Probabilities, which says the more things you try, the more likely one of them will work. The more books you read, the more likely one of them will have an answer to a question that could solve the major problems of your life.. make you wealthier, solve a health problem, whatever it might be.
-- Jack Canfield

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
-- Mark Twain

We can be conditioned from the time we are children to see every choice and every question as having a right and wrong answer. For most things however, and especially for the most important things, this is not true. Combine this with most people's tendency to put more effort into avoiding the negative than seek the positive, and you have a recipe for stifled creativity and opportunity. Life does not have a right answer, only a an answer of what is right for you right now. This is just a habit though, and one that can be broken. Start making a new habit of experimenting and trying new things. For one day, make a commitment to only eat foods you have never tried before. The more you get in the habit of experimenting, the less you will be handcuffed by a right-wrong mindset.

Our Connected universe

Man did not weave the web of life, he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.
-- Chief Seattle

In ordinary life, we are not aware of the unity of all things, but divide the world into separate objects and events. This division is useful and necessary to cope with our everyday environment, but it is not a fundamental feature of reality. It is an abstraction devised by our discriminating and categorizing intellect. To believe that our abstract concepts of separate 'things' and 'events' are realities of nature is an illusion.
-- Fritjof Capra

As science and spirituality both move forward, it is becoming obvious they are leading to the same place and the same understanding of the universe, the nature of reality, or truth itself. That reality or truth is that everything and everyone is part of the same whole. The separation we see between ourselves and the world are constructs of our own conscious mind, and not absolutely true. This has profound implications for us. It means that when we wish someone well, we are also wishing ourselves well. The inverse is true as well, in wishing someone ill, we are also wishing ill upon ourselves. In fact the simple act of planting a flower changes not just the the seed, the soil, and the garden. Planting a flower changes us as well.

Forever Young

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
-- C.S. Lewis

I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
-- Jesus

Children are full of dreams and curiosity. They are always learning, discovering new things, and expanding their view of the world. The amazing thing is that acting like a child by dreaming and learning can actually keep you young. Aging is inevitable, but getting old is a choice. My uncle John knew this intuitively. He learned to surf when he was in his seventies, and never passed a chance to ride a roller coaster through his eighties. He was in fact "younger" than most people in their thirties. Science is just now catching up to what Jesus, CS Lewis, and my uncle John already knew. Brain scans and health studies have shown that continued learning, goal setting, and a sense of purpose can act as a firewall against many age related illnesses. So the saying "you are never too old", should really be "you don't have to be old".

The Most Powerful Force In The World

Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart and the senses.
-- Lao Tzu

Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.
-- 1 Corinthians

At it's most basic, all our actions are motivated either by fear or by love. Every action and every thought is either in response to fear or love, you are either moving away from something you fear or towards something you love. Love is often portrayed as being soft, yet here in two very different religious texts it is called the most powerful force of all. Martin Luther King and Gandhi both pointed this out as well. No matter what any situation looks like today, in the end the forces of love will win. When you are faced with a difficult situation, always make sure that you are acting out of love and not fear. If you do this, you have already secured a victory.

Act Enthusiastic

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.
--Thich Nhat Hanh

Act enthusiastic and you will be enthusiastic.
--Dale Carnegie

Nearly everyone recognizes the effect our emotions have on our physical appearance. Anger forms a frown on your face, pain a grimace. What we often miss is that this works in reverse as well. Choosing to smile even when it is unnatural, can in turn create a happier mood in you. Acting joyful and enthusiastic can bring about joy and enthusiasm in you. Knowing this, it is completely in your control to bring about the emotions in yourself that you desire. You are in control.

Put Worry In It's Place

Children are happy because they don't have a file in their minds called "All the Things That Could Go Wrong"
-- Marianne Williamson

There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever
-- Mahatma Gandhi

Worry is a uniquely human disorder. Worry robs us of joy, of energy, of health while providing no benefits in return. It is like a weed that can overtake your mind if not stopped. This realization can help to overcome worry. When you catch yourself beginning to worry pause and remember that there is no amount of worry which will change the outcome of any situation. Repeating this to yourself can help to turn down the volume on your worry if not turn it off completely. The less time you spend in worry mode, the more you open yourself up for joy, happiness, and love.

Emotional Nutrition

Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.
-- Oprah Winfrey

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
-- Jim Rohn

Who you spend time with has a profound effect on how you grow and what you become. We humans are social creatures. We require social interaction in order to grow and fulfill our goals, our life purpose. In the same way that there are healthy foods and junk foods are going to have profoundly different effects on you physically, there are healthy social relationships and junk relationships. It is important to make a conscious effort to surround yourself with the types of people who provide healthy relationships, ones that provide mentoring or hte chance to mentor, ones that provide love and the chance to love. Just as importantly you must avoid the types of relationships that weaken you emotionally. How do you feel after you have spent time with a particular person? Are you more optimistic or less? Do you feel more confident or less? Do you feel more fearful of the future or less? The answers to these questions will tell you what kind of relationship it is, junk or healthy.

The Purpose Behind Chaos

In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.
-- Deepak Chopra

In all chaos there is a cosmos, in all disorder a secret order.
-- Carl Jung

There is a natural tendency to view chaos as an enemy, as something to be avoided. However it is in the midst of chaos that our greatest growth comes. When you can look through the illusion of disorder in the chaos, you see a new pattern, a new understanding of reality. That new understanding is what propels us forward, it is what moves societies towards greater justice and compassion. Rather than resisting chaos when it appears, instead look for the order within it.

Rewards Of Giving

No one has ever become poor by giving.
-- Anne Frank

I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver.
-- Maya Angelou

Contrary to conventional wisdom, giving does not leave the giver with less but with more. In fact the practice of tithing is based on this observation. When you give, you send a message to your subconscious mind that you in have more than enough. It alters your perspective of the world, and in doing so sends ripples through your entire life. The other thing that giving does is to help create a positive good will towards you, which also sends ripples through your life. This is what the Eastern concept of Karma describes. These ripples may not always be visible, but they are there and have an impact in your life as certain as gravity does. Truly, it is better to give than receive.

Know Your Priorities

The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
-- Stephen R. Covey

Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non essentials.
-- Lin Yu Tang

Today more than ever it is critical that we take control over our schedules, rather than letting our schedules control us. Time shifting technologies like, such as email, text messaging, and DVRs have empowered us to perform tasks or enjoy entertainment on our terms and on our own schedule. These same technologies have also allowed us to avoid or postpone decisions on what is important, and sometimes left us trying to do everything in an attempt to never make the choice between good and better. Likewise, social networks have given us the ability to maintain personal relationships that would otherwise stagnate or die. Social networks can be fabulously empowering, allowing for groups of like minded people to rapidly self organize and achieve some fantastic things. At the same time, it allows us the possibility to empty our days of productive time while trying to make small talk with what an endless supply of people.

The key here for us today is to know when to say no and what to say no to. Make it a point to regularly review what you are spending your time to make sure that it reflects the goals you have set for yourself and the values you hold. Learn to be thrifty with your time, it is the most valuable thing you have.

Own Your Expectations

If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome.
--Michael Jordan

Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon.
--Denis Waitley

Your success depends on what you expect of yourself and the world. When you allow how others view you to influence how you view yourself, you are in effect letting them decide your level of success and your destiny. How others feel, even how they feel about you, is not your concern. You have control over how you feel about yourself, and that is more than enough. When you deliberately decide how you are going to view yourself, the world will eventually come around to your point of view.

Listen

Everyone Is God Speaking. Why not be polite and Listen to Him
-- Hafiz

listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant. They too have their story.
-- Max Ehrmann

Sometimes it is difficult to listen to others. Perhaps we feel too busy to take the time to listen. We may, at times, feel needy and just want others to listen to us. There may be times when we feel that the one speaking has nothing worthwhile to say. Remember that we are all connected to each other and all connected to the Universe. Hafiz said “Everyone is God speaking” That includes the teenager with the strange haircut. It includes the man down the street with the differing political views, the irritating neighbor, the questionable employee, and the little child that frequently interrupts you. “They too have their story.”

Learn to silence your thoughts as well as your words long enough to hear what others have to say. If you really listen you are paying respect to someone who has a connection to God - The Universe - Source. You may receive surprising new insights if you listen with a receptive attitude. These insights may help you in day to day life as well as your spiritual growth.

Those Aren't Your Bags

What other people think of me is none of my business
-- Wayne Dyer

Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

What other people think or say about you is only relevant to you if you choose to make it relevant. Each person's thoughts and words, regardless of whether the subject is you, are their own baggage. To improve ourselves, to elevate our own consciousness, we must pay attention not to how others feel about us, but about how we feel and what we say about others. You won't get anywhere in life carrying other people's baggage around in addition to your own. Instead look at your own thoughts, your own baggage, and make a conscious effort to empty it whenever possible. Make a conscious effort to lighten your own load, and your own journey will become much more effortless.

Live Your Life Passionately

Enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success. When you do a thing, do it with all your might. Put your whole soul into it. Stamp it with your own personality. Be active, be energetic and faithful, and you will accomplish your object. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I can't imagine a person becoming a success who doesn't give this game of life everything he's got.
-- Walter Cronkite

Our lives are far too precious and far too short to spend it on things which don't fill you with passion and enthusiasm. Your life is worthy of being spent on things you love, on living with maximum passion, and extracting as much of what life has to offer during your time here. The more you do what you love, the more you will fill yourself with passion and joy. The more you are filled with passion and joy, the more you can share that passion and joy with others. Living passionately is the best thing you can do for yourself and for the world around you.

We Pay a Price When We Judge Others

Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
-- Oscar Wilde

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.
-- Wayne Dyer

Every ounce of energy that you spend worrying about what other people are doing is taken from the pool of energy that should be going towards propelling you to your goals and fulfilling your life purpose. Every person is unique and comes with their own journey and life purpose. Judging what they are doing on their journey does absolutely nothing to help you on yours. Stay focused on yourself, it is one of the most selfless things you can do.

Active Patience

Faith sees a beautiful blossom in a bulb, a lovely garden in a seed, and a giant oak in an acorn.
-- William Arthur Ward

The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.
-- Leo Tolstoy

Everything in life has a natural cycle and rhythm. To grow an oak tree you must of course plant the acorn first, however you must also wait. When you plant the acorns of success in your life, do not forget this last part. You must be actively patient in waiting for the realization of your dreams. Active patience means staying aware of your dreams, continuing to nurture them, knowing that when the time is right they will be realized as surely as the acorn grows into a mighty oak.

Sharpen Your Axe

Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.
-- Abraham Lincoln

If you're not practicing, somebody else is, somewhere, and he'll be ready to take your job.
-- Brooks Robinson

Never confuse preparation with inaction. When a new building is constructed, the builder does not start with walls. Instead the first things done are preparing the location and laying the foundation. The bigger the building, the longer these first tasks will take, and while it may not appear outwardly that much progress is being made while they are being completed, these first tasks will determine how long that building will last and how successful a project it will be. The same is true with any project we undertake and any goal we set. Preparation and practice lay the foundation that you build everything else on, and without a foundation nothing will stand for long. So take care to put the necessary effort into building your foundation.

We Are All Standing On Our Island Of Opportunity

You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment. Fools stand on their island opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land, there is no other life but this.
Henry David Thoreau

Your past is important but it is not nearly as important to your present as the way you see your future
Tony Campolo

Give the present your attention. Focus your conscious mind on the present moment. You can not change the past, but you can change what the past means by what you think and do today. The future is not here, but is created by what you do and think today. So take care and be aware that you are making the most of the moment you are in right now.

You Are More Powerful Than You Know

Maturity includes the recognition that no one is going to see anything in us that we don't see in ourselves. Stop waiting for a producer. Produce yourself.
-- Marianne Williamson

Getting ahead in a difficult profession requires avid faith in yourself. That is why some people with mediocre talent, but with great inner drive, go so much further than people with vastly superior talent.
-- Sophia Loren

One of the most well known miracles told in the Bible is when Jesus came walking on water to closest followers when they were caught out in a boat during a storm. Peter in an attempt to follow Jesus, tried walking out to him on the water. The story tells of how Peter started walking, but when he became afraid he began to sink. It is at this point where Jesus questioned Peter, "Oh you of little faith, why do you doubt". Most people who learn this story in Sunday school, learn that the faith in question was a faith in Jesus. When you read the story, however, you see that it is actually Peter's confidence or faith in himself that failed him. What the story truly teaches is that we need to have more faith in ourselves, and in our own abilities. You are far more powerful and capable than you realize. It is the faith in yourself that will unlock that potential.

Live Like You Are Dying

Wake up! If you knew for certain you had a terminal illness--if you had little time left to live--you would waste precious little of it! Well, I'm telling you...you do have a terminal illness: It's called birth. You don't have more than a few years left. No one does! So be happy now, without reason--or you will never be at all
-- Dan Millman

The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.
— Carlos Castaneda

To be successful and happy, one must take action as if you have little time left to live while setting your goals as if you will live forever. Too often there is a tendency to operate backwards when it comes to this, setting goals as if there is no time, while taking action (or lack of it) as if there was infinite time left. Be sure that you are living as if you could die tomorrow, and planning as if you will live forever. Both are true.

Strength Through Flexibility

Be clear about your goal but be flexible about the process of achieving it.
-- Brian Tracy

Nothing in the world is more flexible and yielding than water. Yet when it attacks the firm and the strong, none can withstand it, because they have no way to change it. So the flexible overcome the adamant, the yielding overcome the forceful. Everyone knows this, but no one can do it.
-- Lao Tzu

Towering pine trees grow to that size, not by standing rigidly against the elements, but by bending as the wind demands of it. People achieve greatness in the same way, by being willing and open to change, by bending as circumstances demand of us. This is not to say you should compromise your goals or integrity, but be flexible in your approach. The tree's essential nature is to grow from a sapling to a towering pine while your essential nature is to grow into greatness and in both cases a little flexibility will be needed along the way.

Be Bold

Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold.
Helen Keller

Laugh at yourself, but don't ever aim your doubt at yourself. Be bold. When you embark for strange places, don't leave any of yourself safely on shore. Have the nerve to go into unexplored territory.
Alan Alda

In life, the richest and sweetest fruits are always going to be the ones that are furthest out of reach, ones that require us to leave our comfort zone to acquire. Our greatness does not come from finding the low hanging fruit, but from our willingness to go out on a limb, and grab the ripest. These are the treasures of life which fear would rob you of. Be bold, challenge yourself to consistently move outside your comfort zone. Stretch yourself, take risks, be fearless.

The Golden Rule

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.
-- Og Mandino

Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.
-- Mother Teresa

One of the kindest things you can do for yourself is to be kind to everyone you come in contact with. All of life is a giant feedback loop. When you send out kindness, it gets returned to you several times over. When you take time and care in your interactions with others, you will find others taking tome and care in their interactions with you. Develop a picture in your mind of how you would like to be treated in your ideal world, and then set about making sure that is how you treat each person you come across.

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